Just this morning, during a conversation with someone, for the purpose of this story we’ll call her Jenny. I was trying to explain my vision of what I wanted to achieve for my future. Jenny could not understand my thoughts and ideas. However, after feeling like I’ve held myself back for so long, now grasping on to the idea that I can do anything I want, with the right determination, mind and attitude I can achieve anything I set my mind to.
During the conversation, I was explaining why I did not want to go for a higher position with my current company. I explained after moving from big company to big company. I no longer wanted to work my way up in these sort of companies. I explained I wanted to be something bigger that inspired people particularly younger children. Jenny kept telling me how confused she was about what I was saying.
I again explained, I had been going from job to job, but after a while of starting a new job, I always had the feeling inside me that I could do so much more. I explained if I were to go for a higher role in my current company, it would distract me from pursuing what I had actually wanted to do. I told her now was my time. So I needed to keep my current role, in order to live day to day pay my bills etc. But with my position being what it was, It allowed me time of my own, before, and after work to pursue my real dreams. Again Jenny kept telling me how confused she was, and also advised me the confusion maybe in fact, in my head, and may have been coming across in the way I was talking.
I had told her I would start writing and practicing the talks I wanted to deliver, and I explained when my opportunity came, which I knew it would I wanted to be prepared. I also explained I wanted to be the best at what I did. I explained I understood there would be steps I needed to take, to get to the place I wanted to be. I also understood although I may not have the direct path now. In my spare time if I focused on my dream, and pursuing all the different opportunities I knew a path would open up for me, and when that time came I wanted to be ready to grasp it with both hands.
To Jenny all of this seemed quite alien to her, and she kept talking to me about the reality, and I kept trying to explain my points and she kept trying to get across hers. In the end I allowed Jenny to have her opinion, in my own mind I got the impression she thought I was either delusional, or just not capable of achieving my dreams. Jenny is a highly educated individual, and from the impression I get she is very successful in her field of work. However, whilst I was trying to bring her into my vision, it felt as though maybe she did not believe I could do it.
After my conversation with Jenny I felt a little defeated, and thought maybe me wanting to reach my dreams was just a distant image which I would not be able to grasp. I thought about it for a while and began to start doubting myself. After a short while of dwelling on the reasons I could not do it and why Jenny was right. I stopped myself mid thought. I thought ‘hang on a minute, why am I doing this to myself’ and I realised Jenny may have not been able to see my dream. She may have thought I was not capable, but who cares? I knew I could. After growing up believing I would not amount to the things I wanted to, after being told time and time again I could not do this that or the other. It occurred to me I was allowing myself, to put my ideas aside and take Jenny’s view on things. ‘Why am I doing this I thought?’
After my conversation I came home and believed in my dream more than ever. I even had other thoughts and ideas about how to improve other areas of my life. I set about putting up reminders of the things I needed to do but had recently been to lazy to do, always telling myself I would do it tomorrow and start again tomorrow. If your anything like me sooner or later tomorrow turns into never.
After a while of going over my conversation with Jenny in my head, I began to feel grateful for the conversation, and I realised it had given me more determination more drive to pursue my dream even harder. It had also inspired me to sort out other areas of my life, I created a meal plan, thinking when my dream opportunity arrived I wanted to have a healthy mind as well as a healthy body. I set my daily exercise routine out. I moved my living room around so where I sat the light shone directly on me. I completed a few tasks that I had allowed to be rolling on from day to day.
After doing all of these things I was back up there determined, and more raring to go then ever before. I thought just because someone who I had known for almost nine years, had not believed in me, this did not mean I did not believe in myself. All of the doubts and questions she had posed to me were her doubts. I was not willing to take them on board. Instead of allowing that situation to bring me down I used it as a well needed kick up my behind, and I felt like I was standing taller then ever. I thought next time I’m am told I would not be able to achieve something I would allow the other person to have their opinion, I would not loose my patience with them, I would simply take it as water off a ducks back.
I had also thought if Jenny did not believe I could do it, that was her issue and should not define my opinion of me. Point is in life if you have a dream or a goal. Hold it in your mind. You may not know today how you will achieve your goal but you do not need to. All you need to do is figure out the very next step. As I had explained to Jenny I was going to start practising the types of talks I wanted to give, so when the opportunity arose, which I know it will, I will be prepared. I’ll probably still go through all of the normal emotions like being nervous, unsure, I’ll probably even try and talk myself out of it. However, i will deal with all of these normal things with an advantage. I will have my talk drilled into my mind I will have practised and practised, over and over. I will have placed myself in the best possible position for me, once all the self defeating talk is over and pushed aside I will be able to shine. I will be able to do the most important thing, I will be able to live my dreams!
Never let someone else’s thoughts or opinions put a doubt in your mind, and never allow it to stop you from following your dreams. Always remember set backs will happen but it is how you deal with them, and as long as when the set backs occur you keep getting back up and trying again, there is no such thing as failure. Failure only occurs when you stop getting back up and stop trying.
‘It’s better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one, than to have an opportunity and not be prepared’. Whitney Young JR.
Always follows your dreams!